Separation Anxiety: It's when your baby or toddler starts feeling anxious whenever you're out of sight. Whether it appears suddenly or gradually, it can affect your child's life, including their sleep.
Signs of separation anxiety:
6-8 months:
Display distress when you leave the room or when they are left with someone else.
May cling to you or cry when you are not near.
9-12 months:
Increased clinginess and crying during separations.
May show fear towards strangers or unfamiliar situations.
Might have trouble sleeping or exhibit changes in sleep patterns.
13-18 months:
Demonstrates a strong preference for you over other people.
May have tantrums when separated or when you leave the room.
Could wake up crying during the night, looking for comfort.
19 months to 3 years:
Verbalize their distress about separation or the fear of you leaving.
May have a hard time saying goodbye or resisting separations vehemently.
Exhibiting nightmares or night awakenings seeking reassurance.
Preschool Age (3-5 years):
May verbalize fears or worries about separation.
Have trouble during drop-offs at preschool or other separation moments.
Could develop physical complaints, like a stomachache, to avoid separations.
How to help you child through this phase
Establish a Consistent Routine: Adhering to a predictable daily routine can provide a sense of security for your baby.
Practice Short Separations: Start with brief separations to help your baby gradually get used to being apart from you.
Stay Calm During Goodbyes: Make your goodbyes short and sweet to help your baby feel secure.
Use Comfort Items: Offer a comfort item like a pacifier if your child takes it. Only for children above 12 months (for safety reasons), you can offer a cosy blanket or stuffed animal to provide a sense of security.
Engage in Bonding Activities: Spend quality time together during the day to reassure your baby of your presence and love. Having intentional 1-on-1 time with your child, even if it’s only 10-15 minutes can do wonders.
Create a Soothing Bedtime Routine: Establish a calming pre-sleep routine to help ease separation anxiety at bedtime.
Avoid Sneaking Out: Always say goodbye before leaving to build trust.
Reinforce Independence: Encourage independent play during the day to build your baby’s confidence and independence.
Respond Promptly: When your baby is distressed, respond promptly to provide comfort.
Seek Professional Advice: If separation anxiety is severe or prolonged, consider consulting a paediatrician for personalized advice.
Each baby is unique, and what works may vary. It's about finding what fits best for your family situation while ensuring your baby feels secure and loved.
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